Aloneness & Boundaries

The Gift of Retreat

There’s a quiet power in knowing when to step back.
When to serve others, and when to serve yourself.

This week, as the Sun moves into the energy of Gate 40, the theme of aloneness comes alive. This is not loneliness, it’s the space we choose for ourselves. The retreat that allows us to reflect, to recharge, and to remember who we are when the world gets too loud around us (and in us).

Aloneness is essential. It gives us perspective. It helps us set boundaries. It teaches us that balance doesn’t just happen, we create it by choosing how we spend our time, our energy, and our devotion.

The truth is: we can’t give endlessly to others if our own cup is empty. We can’t keep saying “yes” to every demand without pausing to ask: what do I need right now?

When we learn to set clear boundaries, when we decide how much work, how much rest, how much fun, and how much solitude we give to self, we stop running on autopilot. Life becomes easier, more balanced, and more enjoyable.

The energy of Gate 40 reminds us: you are the one who sets the rules for your life. You are the one who decides how much to give, and when to retreat. And the more you understand yourself, the more you can find your own unique rhythm, a balance that nourishes you and makes your service to others sustainable.

So this week, take some time for yourself:

• Retreat without guilt.

• Read the book.

• Drink the tea.

• Sit in nature.

• Be alone for a while.

Let your aloneness be the place where you regenerate — and from there, return with clarity, energy, and joy.